July 1st, 1976

So interesting to watch this new relationship with Richard reveal itself. Almost daily we work out some new way of dealing with each other that is positive and good. Problems come up and we each stand our ground until we can see each other’s point of view. I am devising whole new theories of living with someone you love.

It’s so important that we don’t hem each other into our own little world. I want absolutely no expectations of each other. I don’t want clinging and dependence. We’ve got to have our own lives, our own dreams, our own loves. When you surrender your possibilities to a relationship– that relationship ceases to be supportive. Perhaps at one time in history marriage as a social unit for survival was very useful. At least for me, and in the world that I live, individual growth and meaning are more important than coupling security.